Manipulators have a lot of skills when it comes to getting what they want. Be careful not to be influenced by them. Look for these 8 signs that you are being manipulated:
They make you feel guilty:
Playing with your emotions is the ultimate weapon of manipulators. They are great at making you feel guilty for things (or thoughts!) you haven't even done.
If you can manage not to give in to their demands, they will manage to make you feel guilty for hours ... even days!
They may even throw out phrases like "What could I have done to deserve such a treatment from your part ...".
And here you go, you are now living with the guilt! This is why you need to be firm and confident in your decisions. If necessary, write down why you stood up to a manipulator and review those notes afresh so that the guilt doesn't eat away at you.
You doubt yourself:
When you are under manipulation, people are playing with your mind. You are constantly influenced to doubt yourself.
You can no longer make a simple decision without thinking about the consequences or the comments you will hear.
In front of a manipulator (admit that you already have a face in mind!), you lose all your means when you were usually more self-assured.
This is a sign that you are being manipulated: when you become ultra-vulnerable to the point where you no longer trust your judgment.
Your words are distorted:
Chatting with a manipulator is difficult ... almost impossible. You don't even want to have the last word, simply being able to slip in just one would be a dream.
When you do, you're surprised how the other twists your words. Sometimes, even if you are aware of their speaking skills, it even turns against you.
You say something and then BANG, without realizing it, you are accused of something else. And of course, you are made to pass for the "bad guy", because the manipulator does everything in his power to be the perfect pain-reliever!
This is his favorite role.
You have no peace of mind.
When a manipulator is lurking around you, you never have peace of mind. You are constantly tormented.
You go over the past, your actions, your words (and his/hers), and you worry about the future.
We also notice a drop in your self-esteem: you are afraid of disappointing everyone (not just the manipulator!).
If your inner calm is gone, you should examine your personal and professional relationships to determine if a few are toxic to you.
Learn to recognize the obvious signs of a toxic friendship.
They use flattery towards you.
To achieve his ends, a manipulator is ready for anything. He knows what your chords are and how to play them to get what he wants.
Warning! This flattery is just a bunch of lies: you know it, but it's hard to resist.
These false compliments may sometimes dazzle you and make you flinch. Then, you regret it. Because once he wins, none of this remains.
They alter the facts.
To fabricate excuses, to find proof of everything they put forward, to invent facts or to advance all kinds of arguments (sometimes wacky or exaggerated), the manipulators are the champions!
They would even be bold enough to claim that 2 + 2 = 3.
Without hesitation, they claim to be experts and are capable of doing and saying anything to convince you that they are right.
In their speech, you often find categorical terms like "never", "always", "everyone", "nobody", etc.
Moreover, if they are wrong and are caught, they blame others, of course!
Don't believe everything manipulative people say. Question them, question their word, and dare to assert yourself.
You are not fooled and do not have to put up with their big talk.
You have changed.
Sometimes, by being around manipulators daily, several parts of your life could have suffered from these relationships.
Your sleep is disturbed. Your stress level rarely abates. You have a hard time picking up the phone. You find it tough to relax. You experience more and more nervousness.
These are signs that you are feeling the physical and mental repercussions of the manipulation.
Also, pay attention to comments from those who know you best.
If those around you tell you that you have changed, that you are not like you used to be, or that you seem different, it might be time to do a little examination of what caused these likely unintentional changes.